tumbling about the internet, but a few weeks ago I had someone tell me that
having treatment for cancer was ‘a bit like being pregnant – what with the
heartburn, feeling sick, being tired, losing your hair’. And as, as I’m not
hashtag blessed to have a child, I just had to take with a pinch of salt……
that have been said to me in the last year or so……..so, here goes; Things
not to say to someone facing cancer (well, not if you like them anyway!)
at 36, I have learnt how to put on my make-up to some degree of competency (no,
no, not counting eyeliner, or contouring, or lipstick – but I can apply a CC
cream and blusher!)
certain way during treatment because people on the TV with cancer do – they look
gaunt and grey. But the steroids I was on did wonders for my skin. Man, my skin
looked amazing on the steroids. Yes, sometimes underneath the makeup my skin
was bright red from tablets I was on, and sometimes it was an alarming shade of
grey too, but it was plump and clear and wonderful on the steroids. Ahhhhhh.
“braver” or more worthy is rubbish and needs to be quashed. Losing
your hair does not make you instantly sicker or facing something worse than
someone who has chosen to try and keep their hair – especially not when there
are cold caps to try and even some types of chemo that don’t affect your hair!
bad one / at least it’s only breast cancer.
me in the weeks after my diagnosis, when it was all still new to me and scary
as hell and I was kind of freaking out because we didn’t have a full diagnosis.
treatable cancer but also, fuck off. At the time I just wanted to smash their
head into the wall. Sitting there facing a bunch of treatment and being told it
was ‘only breast cancer’. Nobs.
off for my life insurance – although it’s not really worth it for him if I’m
honest. He, on the other hand is worth quite a pretty penny to me
most cases, just a mutation of your cells, it’s not something that you bring on
yourself. I mean I did ask the question if something I did might have caused it
and I was told, by a medical professional, that nothing I did could have brought
it on – so I dissolved myself of most of my guilt right there.
and most certainly not the cheese I consume. Although the vegans of Instagram
have some very vocal views that go against this.
want a kale smoothie?
while. Bless him though, he still puts kale in his own smoothies. I’ll happily
take a fruit smoothie, but kale. Nope. And I’ve got nothing against kale really
– it’s delicious crispy friend. But don’t you try and make me drink it – it just
makes smoothies lumpy and look like dirt.
you’re going through‘
me. It made me want to shout at them. If something is a big issue in your life
then it’s a big issue. Your big issues are the big things going on in your life
right now, fact! I mean i might roll my eyes when you moan about something for
the 14th time, but hell, I’d have done that anyway!
tired. You try having insomnia for the best part of a year and tell me I don’t
know what tired is. Granted, I get to scroll through dogstagram and read books
when I wake up, but, still, I’m awake.
on a Friday night. I mean, straight up gods honest truth, it’s not as hard as
they make it out to be on TV. Or I didn’t think it was. But It wasn’t easy, not
by a long stretch of the imagination.
and doing spin classes pre-treatment! I, on the other hand have never had the
stupidity to set foot in a spin class so you’re probably not going to see me do
one now. Plus, everyone is different. I didn’t lose all my hair, but I did lose
my stamina. They might have lost their sanity!